Let today be the day you give up who you’ve been for who you can become. ~Hal Elrod

Frequently Asked Questions

“How do I know if my therapist is the best one for me?” 

It can be difficult to pick a therapist, especially just by looking at a website.  It's important to remember that, because you share very private parts of your life, you must feel a connection with and develop trust of the person with whom you are working! 

A good rule of thumb is to first focus on their areas of specialty; find someone who can help with your specific problem. After one or two sessions you should feel comfortable and believe that your therapist understands you. 

“What if I decide this therapist is not a good fit?” 

If at any time, your therapist does not feel like a good "fit,"  you should look for someone new.  Therapists understand the importance of this relationship and so a good therapist will never judge you or make you feel as though it's your fault if the relationship doesn't work out.  In fact, therapists can often provide you with a referral to another therapist that might be a better fit for you and your concerns.

“I'm worried that other people will judge me if they know I'm in counseling.  Is therapy confidential?

Your privacy is protected by federal and state laws.  Information you share in counseling is treated with respect and kept confidential.  Even the fact that you are in therapy is kept confidential and not shared unless you give us written or verbal permission to share with someone. 

We will review our confidentiality practices and policies in our first visit together and you can always ask for clarification if you have any questions. 

“I've always been told that only people with BIG problems or who are 'crazy' talk to therapists. Does this mean that there's something seriously wrong with me?"


We all have problems!  Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is talk to someone who is outside of the problem.  A therapist has specialized training and can be an objective third party to give you new insight and new ideas of how to approach situations.   

“Why should I pay someone when I have friends to talk to?"

Friends are great and can be a fantastic source of support during hard times.  However,  friends and family members often have a hard time being objective about situations and the problems you are facing.  They care about you and, although they mean well, they may find it hard to be completely honest with you; they might "sugar coat" things and often can't be completely unbiased.  Most friends and family members don't have specialized training with researched and tested skills to help you approach your situation.  And finally, therapy is completely confidential so it allows you have total control over who knows about your situation, which may not be the case with family or friends.

"How long does therapy take?  Will I be in therapy for the rest of my life?"

The length of time in therapy is as personalized as the problems or issues you want to address.  Some people use therapy for approaching crisis situations, meaning something major has occurred in their life like a death of a loved one or a break up.  Others use therapy to work on more long term issues, like personal growth or learning to set boundaries around how others treat them.  Regardless of your need, I will work with you to develop a plan... and always remember, you are in control and can stop therapy at any time you see fit. 

More questions?  Call or email me today to get answers! 

Kindness Counseling and Consulting